All Work No Play Makes Jack A Dull Boy Essay On Where You Grew

We all seem to know the proverb yet we do not give the freedom to our children to play and have fun. We underestimate the importance of play that's crucial for children's healthy psychological development and ability to thrive in life, according to Peter Gray, a Boston College developmental psychologist and author of the new book Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life [Basic Books, March 2013:].

"Playing with other children, away from adults, is how children learn to make their own decisions, control their emotions and impulses, see from others' perspectives, negotiate differences with others, and make friends," says Gray, an expert on the evolution of play and its vital role in child development. "In short, play is how children learn to take control of their lives."

We are all born with an inherent curiosity, playfulness, sociability and deep desire to learn, but schooling seems to rob that from us. Anxiety and stress levels among students are at an all-time high: they are burdened with too much homework, over-scheduled with extracurricular activities, deprived of free play, and faced with the pressures of getting into a top college.

"How did we come to the conclusion that the best way to educate students is to force them into a setting where they are bored, unhappy and anxious?" Gray asks. "Our compulsory education system features forced lessons, standardised tests, and seems specially designed to crush a child's innate and biological drives for learning." The traditional 'coercive' school model, he adds, was originally developed to indoctrinate, not to promote intellectual growth.

Reasons why we are conditioned to be this way

But schools, Gray notes, aren't only to blame for the decline in play—due to parental fears, outdoor play has declined significantly in recent decades. Gray cites a decline in knowing and trusting neighbours and a rise in fear of letting children out into circumstances where there is no adult supervision as part of the problem. He also adds, these are partly driven by exaggerated media reports; increased time in school, at homework and in adult-directed activities outside of school; and most significantly, a rise in the societal attitude that childhood is a time for building resumes and free play is wasted time.

He presents scientific evidence that self-directed learning and free play allow children to realise their optimum abilities to learn, grow, and develop naturally and positively. Gray even explains how the hunter-gatherer way—where children spend their days in mixed-age groups, engaging in self-directed play and exploration—leads to the development of socially, intellectually, and emotionally healthy adults.

He cites a direct correlation between the decline of play and the rise in emotional and social disorders among young people, and provides recommendations for what parents and communities can do to promote and reinstitute play in children's lives.

This study presents a compelling evidence that over the past 50 years—as children's opportunities for free play and exploration have declined—there has been a dramatic rise in anxiety, depression, and suicide in young people, who have not had the opportunity that free play provides to find meaning and joy in life.

"Peter Gray is one of the world's experts on the evolution of childhood play, and applies his encyclopaedic knowledge of psychology, and his humane voice, to the pressing issue of educational reform," according to Steven Pinker, Harvard College Professor of Psychology and author of How the Mind Works.


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Note to readers (added Aug. 5, 2012): In your reading of this essay, please include the comment (on page 2 of the comments) by Professor Jane Fajans, the anthropologist whose writings I have made use of for this post.  Her comment is entitled "Work and Play Among the Baining" (which is also part of the subtitle of her fascinating book), and it offers a couple of significant corrections to what I say here. Perhaps most important, Fajans notes that Baining adults, in her experience, did not so much actively prevent children's play as devalue it. I wish also to take this opportunity to emphasize a point that I could have made more fully in this essay: The attitude of the Baining toward play is very different from that of hunter-gatherers, and, correlated with that, their adult character is also very different. If you follow the links in the third paragraph below, you will find more about hunter-gatherers and play. I wish to add also that this essay is clearly not about race but about culture, and if there is value judgment, it is judgment grounded in my own culturally-produced biases. -PG 

Another note to readers, added Aug. 25, 2015.  Just a few days ago, Gail Pool added a comment about her recent experiences with the Baining and her new book about that experience.  She adds an important corrective to what I said here and offers the well-justified criticism that what I wrote was not based on first-hand knowledge of the Baining.  It certainly wasn't; it was based primarily on one book I had read about the Baining, by someone who did study them first-hand.  If you read this essay, I would urge you also to read Gail's comment, dated Aug. 20, 2015, near the bottom of the list of comments.

The Baining—one of the indigenous cultural groups of Papua New Guinea—have the reputation, at least among some researchers, of being the dullest culture on earth. Early in his career, in the 1920s, the famous British anthropologist Gregory Bateson spent 14 months among them, until he finally left in frustration. He called them “unstudiable,” because of their reluctance to say anything interesting about their lives and their failure to exhibit much activity beyond the mundane routines of daily work, and he later wrote that they lived “a drab and colorless existence.” Forty years later, Jeremy Pool, a graduate student in anthropology, spent more than a year living among them in the attempt to develop a doctoral dissertation. He too found almost nothing interesting to say about the Baining, and the experience caused him to leave anthropology and go into computer science (reference here).  Finally, however, anthropologist Jane Fajans, now at Cornell University, figured out a way to study them.[1]

Fajans studied the Baining in the late 1970s and again in the early 1990s. Like her predecessors, she found that they lacked the cultural structures that are the stock-in-trade of anthropology, such as myths, festivals, religious traditions, and puberty rites, and that the method of trying to learn about them through interviews produced little response. They did not tell stories, rarely gossiped, and exhibited little curiosity or enthusiasm. In Fajans’s words, “Their conversation is obsessively mundane, concerned primarily with food-getting and food-processing.” She found, however, that she could study them by following them around and observing their daily activities and interactions. From this she could discern their general cultural beliefs and values. What she found is fascinating, at least to me. By negative example, it tells us something about the value of play to human existence.

The Baining are small-scale agriculturalists, who subsist on their gardens and the few animals they raise. In their style of life and attitudes they are in many ways the opposite of hunter-gatherers, including those hunter-gatherers to whom they are closely related. Hunter-gatherers love the bush, or forest; value freedom and individual initiative; and—as I have discussed elsewhere (including here and here)—are extraordinarily playful in their daily lives and especially value play among children. Hunter-gatherer children are allowed to play all day, every day, from dawn to dusk, and in that way they acquire the subsistence skills, social skills, and personal traits and values that characterize their culture. In contrast, the Baining shun the bush, which they view as chaotic and dangerous, and they derogate play, especially that among children. 

According to Fajans, the Baining eschew everything that they see as “natural” and value activities and products that come from “work,” which they view as the opposite of play. Work, to them, is effort expended to overcome or resist the natural. To behave naturally is to them tantamount to behaving as an animal. The Baining say, “We are human because we work.” The tasks that make them human, in their view, are those of turning natural products (plants, animals, and babies) into human products (crops, livestock, and civilized human beings) through effortful work (cultivation, domestication, and disciplined childrearing).

The Baining believe, quite correctly, that play is the natural activity of children, and precisely for that reason they do what they can to discourage or prevent it. They refer to children’s play as “splashing in the mud,” an activity of pigs, not appropriate for humans. They do not allow infants to crawl and explore on their own. When one tries to do so an adult picks it up and restrains it. Beyond infancy, children are encouraged or coerced to spend their days working and are often punished—sometimes by such harsh means as shoving the child’s hand into the fire—for playing. On those occasions when Fajans did get an adult to talk about his or her childhood, the narrative was typically about the challenge of embracing work and overcoming the shameful desire to play. Part of the reason the Baining are reluctant to talk about themselves, apparently, derives from their strong sense of shame about their natural drives and desires.

The Baining also derogate sexual intercourse, because it is natural, although they apparently engage in enough of it to keep their population going. They consider adoption to be the ideal form of parenting, because to raise someone else’s child is less natural than to raise one's own. At the time that Fajans studied them, 36 percemt of the children were adopted. In Baining tradition, if someone asks to adopt your child, it is not polite to refuse their request. In many ways, the Baining are the ideal Puritans, even though they have no particular religious traditions and do not give religious reasons for their beliefs or behavior.

The one type of “play” that the Baining sanction is dancing, but only a certain type of highly-stylized dancing. They choreograph elaborate dances, with masks and costumes, which they carry out at certain times of the year; but, according to Fajans, they attach no symbolic significance to these. Traditionally the dances were the province entirely of the adult men; women and children were forbidden even from observing. Now, according to Fajans, women and children do participate, at least to some degree. Perhaps these dances are acceptable to the culture because their formal structure and the intensive work that goes into preparing for them (including the creation of the elaborate costumes, which are used only once and then destroyed) remove them from primitive, "animal-like" ways of playing. Also, today the dances appear to be conducted largely to entertain visitors, which may put them into a category of work rather than play.

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, and it apparently makes the Baining the “dullest culture on earth.” In some ways, I fear, we today are trying to emulate the Baining as we increasingly deprive children of opportunities to play and explore freely and, instead, force them to spend ever more time working in school and participating in adult-directed activities outside of school. For more on that, see my last essay and many previous essays in this blog.


If this essay stimulates thoughts or questions, about the value of play or about anything else, please share them here. This blog is a forum for discussion, and comments and questions are taken seriously, by me and other readers. As always, I prefer if you post your comments and questions here rather than send them to me by private email. By putting them here, you share with other readers, not just with me. I read all comments and try to respond to all serious questions. Of course, if you have something to say that truly applies only to you and me, then send me an email.


[1] Jane Fajans (1997). They make themselves: Work and play among the Baining of Papua New Guinea.  

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